“What is your WHY?” Doing some reading on marketing, I kept coming back to this phrase. As much as I dread marketing speak like this, I’ve realized that this concept might help center me. My ADHD brain needs routine and grounding; clarity on why I would prefer to live with intentionality. If I get hit by a car tomorrow, will I have made the most of my gifts? Which suffering have I endured, and walked through, which I can help someone else with? What healing can I be a part of? Sitting in a 12 step meeting 2 years ago it started to become clear
4 Ways to Live Sobriety (video below) For whatever reason I love talking sobriety with my buddies in recovery. Sobriety has given me so many things! One of the one’s that I value the most is meaningful, deep, relationships, where I am able to talk about ANYTHING without fear of judgement. The topic of today’s blog post is something that I discuss often with my core recovery buddies here in Miami, and usually comes up in conversation as a question like “how you livin’ papa?” Our conversations seem to be fun, light hearted, and brutally honest. If I can get
Welcome to our blog, and my first post. I am hoping that this blog becomes a resource for people in recovery. Please note that ANYTHING posted here is simply OPINION, and not the gospel! I believe that we all “do recovery” at our own pace, and learn the lessons that we learn, just as we are intended to learn them, by divine grace. It took me a LONG time to really get this lesson: First thing’s first. How I start my day has an enormous impact on my experience moving forward. Very, very often when I first open my eyes in
Breaking Through Denial: When no man is an island, where does the addict look to reintegrate a fragmented self?
Shame and Denial I wanted to share some preliminary ideas that I am going to be writing about which address the common hurdles that sex addicts face before they are ready to break through denial. Because of the heavy shame component of sexual addiction and compulsion, 12 step fellowships alone may not be enough to keep the sex addict moving along the recovery path into solid sobriety. Programs that attempt to skirt the toxic shame body altogether tend to fail miserably, however appealing they might initially seem. The question of “who am I” to a sex addict is terribly